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What is Spirituality?

My definition of Spirituality is finding my own answers for inner content and happiness by self discovery.

For me it does not involve a particular religion,  I respect every religions points of view but for me i have never found a religion that sits totally comfortable for me, every religion has parts that I 100% agree with but also other parts which I disagree with. I do believe there is a God , a Creator, a Universal energy but I also believe that God or the Creator wants us each to be happy and content and does not need to lay down rules to “rule” us by.  The “God” I believe in would not turn his back on anyone who didn’t believe or who didn’t pray or attend church or who has fallen off the wagon, been misled or who has strayed from the path of goodness.

I believe its about finding your own individual path and purpose in life. It involves continual personal development, contemplation, meditation and prayer. All of these have led me to a connectiveness with a larger reality and is a continuous process. It has led me to have a feeling of deep inner calm and a deeper understanding of many things (including relationships, nature, and people in general amongst other things)  which is hopefully making me a better and more understanding and compassionate person.

Its about values, practices and attitudes, for me its about a whole approach to my life, looking after and feeding my body, my mind and my spirit/soul and into this equation comes using natural products and protecting and building our immune systems against the many chemicals which are in everyday products and foods. Its about making our minds stronger and healthier and having a mindset that evokes Love and compassion and understanding rather than negative emotions such as jealousy, anger and making war. Its also about looking at our lifestyle and making sure we have time for contemplation, to get to know and understand our inner being, to learn about our Ego which rules most of our lives and jumps in and makes us respond to situations that afterwards we look back and regret.

My journey so far has been learning new things and also rediscovering things that once rediscovered I realise that I did already know that but had somehow forgotten. Many people call this “an Awakening”.  Once that inner being starts to awaken wonderful things start to happen.  Perhaps meaningful coincidences start happening or as I believe synchronicities,  life takes on a new and fulfilling meaning.  I personally have found its an ongoing journey and the further you travel down the path the more opportunities present themselves and I find this very exciting.

Its not all plain sailing, in fact sometimes it can be quite challenging but each step opens us up a bit more and as exciting or challenging it may get I still have that deep inner calm of knowing that its part of my journey.

Our Spiritual Journey

We have been busy over the last 25 years bringing up our 3 children, dealing with a few health issues and generally dealing with everyday life. We always felt that as busy as we were there was something missing in our lives and after talking about it on and off over the years we both felt perhaps that it was religion but were unable to find a religion or church that had all our beliefs. I know it sounds strange but we knew what our beliefs were before seeking a church or religion not the other way round as perhaps it normally is.  Most  religions fitted our basic beliefs but then we found out what they taught didn’t fit in with our beliefs totally and we weren’t prepared to compromise our beliefs or commit our time to something we didn’t fully believe either.

My biggest issue was seeing my youngest in tears after an event at a local church because she thought her brother would “burn in hell” because he didn’t believe in God. She couldn’t believe that the loving God we had brought her up to believe in would turn his back on someone who hadn’t the same belief as the Church taught or that her loving Pets don’t have souls so they wouldn’t go to heaven. It was at this point that I knew there was an answer out there but which we hadn’t yet found so we went back to getting on with our lives and my youngest attended local church events held for the social side but carried on with her own belief as we had all the years previously.

At this stage we  would regularly have a look at our local charity shops for personal development books and Gary came across a book called Conversations with God part 2 written by Neale Donald Walsch and felt drawn to buy it.  We both found it fascinating and decided we needed to read book 1 and also no 3.

As I was reading Book 1 it was like I had come home, the things i was reading weren’t anything new, I knew it all already but I had somehow forgotten it and reading it was making me remember – a very strange sensation but a life changing one.

We see ourselves not as a Human having a spiritual adventure but as a Spiritual being having a Human experience.



Favourite Motivational Quotes

Motivational Quotes

I Love and always benefit from motivational quotes so i thought i would share some of my favourites

The future depends on what we do in the present. – Mahatma Gandhi

Fall seven times, stand up eight. Japanese proverb

“A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has” – Margaret Mead

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world” – Gandhi

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up” – Thomas Edison.

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing” – George Bernard Shaw

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily” — Zig Ziglar

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” – Wayne Gretzky

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” – Henry Ford

Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars. ~Les Brown

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. ~Henry Ford

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. ~Thomas Edison

Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it. ~Buddha

Journey to a Healthier Life.

Its a Journey
Its a Journey

To live healthily you need to look at various areas of your lifestyle not just one, but focusing on one part at a time is  a good way to start. The areas to look at are

1.  Reduce the chemicals you use in your home, on yourselves and in your local environment.  You want to give your body and the environment the best possible chance of staying healthy in a World where  both are being abused by modern lifestyles.

2.  Eat a healthy diet which gives Your body the nutrients it needs to function properly and aid our immune systems to deal with any problems it has to. So much of our food is lacking nutrients because of the intensive farming methods, poor soil, hormones and antibiotics used in meat production, pesticides used on crops for higher yields, the distance our food travels before we get it on our plates, the storage conditions and preservatives used and then when we finally get the food in our homes it is heated and cooked which also destroys nutrients in most cases. It’s just crazy, add that to all the hidden sugar and salt in processed foods it’s no wonder more and more people are getting illnesses and diseases.

3.  Do regular Exercise, find something that you enjoy and do it regularly. It has so many benefits.

4.  Look after your Mental well-being by doing things that make you feel good, modern life can be so stressful that it can feel like you have no time for you but it is so important to make that time, whether its a hobby you enjoy, a regular pamper session in the bathroom with the door locked, meditation time or time out to reconnect with nature.

5.  Making the best use of any outdoor space you have to grow your own vegetables as well as flowers.  Treat your garden as another room in your house and decorate it accordingly.

6.  Personal development should be a continual process. Every day try to be a bit better in some way to the previous day.  Educate yourself with books, online resources and make sure you learn from mistakes made.  I personally used to hate making mistakes and that would stop me from trying new things but that has all changed. Much better to have tried and failed and learnt than not have tried at all.

7.  Inspiration and motivation  is also important. Find your  favourite authors, gurus who help you through those days when self-doubt pops up or you are lacking oomph,  sometimes it’s also just best to go with the feelings, allow yourself time to feel and then move on again. Some days it’s just best to be kind to yourself.

8.  It’s important to Goal Plan and make a road map of how you are going to achieve your goals . Writing them down is such a  powerful way to reinforce them and also  helps keep you focused.  It gives you stepping stones towards your bigger goals and its always good to reward yourself when you reach a stepping stone. Set your intention and then take Action which leads to Results.

As you can see it’s really a lifestyle change but can be done step by step.