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What is Spirituality?

My definition of Spirituality is finding my own answers for inner content and happiness by self discovery.

For me it does not involve a particular religion,  I respect every religions points of view but for me i have never found a religion that sits totally comfortable for me, every religion has parts that I 100% agree with but also other parts which I disagree with. I do believe there is a God , a Creator, a Universal energy but I also believe that God or the Creator wants us each to be happy and content and does not need to lay down rules to “rule” us by.  The “God” I believe in would not turn his back on anyone who didn’t believe or who didn’t pray or attend church or who has fallen off the wagon, been misled or who has strayed from the path of goodness.

I believe its about finding your own individual path and purpose in life. It involves continual personal development, contemplation, meditation and prayer. All of these have led me to a connectiveness with a larger reality and is a continuous process. It has led me to have a feeling of deep inner calm and a deeper understanding of many things (including relationships, nature, and people in general amongst other things)  which is hopefully making me a better and more understanding and compassionate person.

Its about values, practices and attitudes, for me its about a whole approach to my life, looking after and feeding my body, my mind and my spirit/soul and into this equation comes using natural products and protecting and building our immune systems against the many chemicals which are in everyday products and foods. Its about making our minds stronger and healthier and having a mindset that evokes Love and compassion and understanding rather than negative emotions such as jealousy, anger and making war. Its also about looking at our lifestyle and making sure we have time for contemplation, to get to know and understand our inner being, to learn about our Ego which rules most of our lives and jumps in and makes us respond to situations that afterwards we look back and regret.

My journey so far has been learning new things and also rediscovering things that once rediscovered I realise that I did already know that but had somehow forgotten. Many people call this “an Awakening”.  Once that inner being starts to awaken wonderful things start to happen.  Perhaps meaningful coincidences start happening or as I believe synchronicities,  life takes on a new and fulfilling meaning.  I personally have found its an ongoing journey and the further you travel down the path the more opportunities present themselves and I find this very exciting.

Its not all plain sailing, in fact sometimes it can be quite challenging but each step opens us up a bit more and as exciting or challenging it may get I still have that deep inner calm of knowing that its part of my journey.

Dealing with Night Sweats

 

Being a woman of a certain age with a few irritating symptoms I have been researching the subject of the Menopause and thought it may be useful to share some tips with you which I will be trying.

My main symptom is hot flushes and night sweats, not all the time but when it does happen its not particularly pleasant and disturbs my sleeping which then has an effect on other areas of my life.

1. The herbal supplement black cohosh if taken daily is reported to help relieve hot flushes.

2. Yoga and the Alexander technique are also reported to be good at alleviating both night sweats and hot flushes.

3. Vitamin E and also liquorice are good but beware that liquorice may raise your blood pressure.

4. By eating small frequent meals you can decrease the risk of hot flushes as large meals can dilate the blood vessels which can increase the problem of hot flushes and skin reddening.

5. Mushrooms, onions, milk, garlic, eggs, seafood and brazil nuts are good sources of  selenium which is an excellent antioxidant mineral and can help alleviate symptoms associated with Menopause as can Soya. Ladies who eat Soya seem to benefit from less noticeable symptoms and also run a lower risk of bone disease due to the bone strengthening effects of the food.

5. Sage tea is thought to help with symptoms.

I personally have found taking a turmeric supplement seems to really help me and have since found this link which explains why

After doing research it seems that having got to 53 years of age with so few symptoms is actually an achievement in itself as it seems many women start experiencing symptoms much earlier and many are well and truly Menopausal much earlier.

Perimenopause is quite a new term to describe symptoms caused by normal hormonal fluctuations that occur as a woman moves closer to her menopause.

Menopause is when menstruation stops and you are termed as Menopausal when you haven’t had a period for a year.  In the UK, the average age for a woman to reach the menopause is 51.

Now to finish on a lighter note a You tube video i came across which made me smile and reminds me if i only have a couple of mild symptoms I am very lucky i have probably more symptoms to look forward to.

I prefer to take a turmeric capsule as the amount you need if used in powdered form would make the food you are using it with unpalatable in my opinion.

Organic Turmeric capsules 

Being Happy with you what you have.

“The Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”

We can relate this proverb to all areas of our lives, it basically means that other circumstances always appear better or more desirable than our own but more times than not in reality they aren’t.

I personally think more and more people are thinking this because life has changed so much over the last 60 years or so, gone are the expectations that you would marry someone from your local town, that you would work locally and you would probably be there until you died. With the internet it has opened up so many options, people have vehicles so can look further afield for work with better pay, they can meet lots of new people who they wouldn’t have met otherwise and so on.

We have far more choices now which of course is great but as with everything there is also a downside. More people aren’t happy with what they have, where they are or how much they are earning and become restless and don’t live in the present moment fully as they are always looking to the next better thing.

The grass always seem greener because its grass that we don’t have and we seem to think that  that what we don’t have is more appealing. My suggestion is by all means have goals and work towards them consistently because they are important BUT don’t focus on them because you don’t have them now, be present in the moment, whatever it is you are doing, whether its washing up for instance, feel the warmth of the water, the smell of the washing up liquid, the squeakiness of a clean plate and so on.

I have goals and dreams and I am taking action on a daily basis to move towards those goals but I don’t focus on the lack of not having them now, I have found that by living in the present and seeing what is happening around me right now has given me an inner sense of peace and by clearing my mind regularly and stopping the chatter in my mind to be still by meditation it helps bring me back to the present. When we stop for just a minute and really look around us you see so many beautiful things and “miracles” which we miss when we are busy concentrating on moving forward and moving on to the next job on our long list of things to achieve. Happiness is a state of mind and isn’t found from material possessions, in fact i am finding that material things do actually weigh me down sometimes and make me unhappy. What a turnaround!!

My happiness comes from an inner peace and watching the little things happening around me and its refreshing that i don’t have to rely on buying something to make me happy which then disappoints because actually that happiness is short lived and is always replaced by something else. Now i just need to “be quiet” to find that inner peace and happiness and enjoy what i have, where i am while i travel on the journey of life towards my goals.

Use your senses when appropriate when you are doing anything, see, hear, feel, taste, touch even if its a task that you don’t enjoy and you will feel better about it, when was the last time you went for a walk and looked around you, listened to the sounds for example or doing the washing up and feeling the bubbles and water on your hands, the gentle smell of the washing up liquid and so on?

I find this Book very helpful when I wanted to read more about living in the present moment.

 

Acknowledge your feelings

 

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I’ve recently learnt a valuable lesson when anxiety forced to me to stop and re-evaluate my life. I had got into a rut and blinkers on in many areas of my life and now after taking time to analyse along with relaxing for a while I have a whole new perceptive and a deeper sense of calm and peace.

The last 10 months have been tough trying to find my way after being given a wake up call with my health which stopped me in my tracks.

It’s made me realise exactly what is important in my life and what isn’t. It’s also made me question a lot of things and has left me at times wondering what it’s all about on occasions and the more I see properly what’s happening around us and across the World the more I feel I don’t fit in which is quite unsettling.  We can’t carry on as we are abusing each other and the Planet.
Maybe we each have to create our own heaven on earth and find those with the same values?

Having had a close family member suffer depression and anxiety for many years I thought I had at least a general understanding of what people go through but I have now learnt that unless you have been through it yourself you really cannot have a clue. I’ve always classed myself as a positive, half glass full type of girl and thought anxiety wouldn’t ever affect me but that all changed a few months ago.

Its been a tough few years for us with us both dealing with cancer diagnoses and subsequent surgery and treatment and also losing a relative to the disease and seeing his decline all have had an impact and resulted in me absorbing myself in my work from home business and pushing myself incredibly hard whilst also dealing with all the usual everyday concerns of car problems and worries of family life as well as what’s happening in the World  which ultimately all built up and had to escape and panic attacks and anxiety were the result.

I became very good at shutting out any negative thoughts.  What I should have done is  acknowledged them and then let them go.

Panic attacks appeared resulting in feeling you can’t breathe, tight chest  and a general feeling of doom, especially every time I logged onto the PC, this forced me to step back and take a look at my life.  It was tough waking every morning and over breathing kicked straight in so I was spending the whole day struggling not to have a panic attack, I was so glad when bedtime arrived.
Someone suggested some adult colouring which I really enjoy now and I’m learning to crochet too and allows me to focus on something while also relaxing, walks out in the Countryside also really helped.

Learning to live in the moment and being mindful rather than mind full has also had a positive impact.  Learning that its OK not to be strong all the time and that that having a bad day is acceptable.

I have learnt a lot about myself over the last year, I’m still taking things slowly,  still learning more about myself on a daily basis and have good and not so good days.

We must listen to the small warning signs our bodies give us which we all too often overlook or reach for the pills so we can carry on or it will manifest eventually in something that brings you to a halt.  Being strong for others is also very noble but you can’t just push aside and overlook your own emotional needs as I have found out.

The journey continues.