Category Archives: Personal Development

Being Happy with you what you have.

“The Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”

We can relate this proverb to all areas of our lives, it basically means that other circumstances always appear better or more desirable than our own but more times than not in reality they aren’t.

I personally think more and more people are thinking this because life has changed so much over the last 60 years or so, gone are the expectations that you would marry someone from your local town, that you would work locally and you would probably be there until you died. With the internet it has opened up so many options, people have vehicles so can look further afield for work with better pay, they can meet lots of new people who they wouldn’t have met otherwise and so on.

We have far more choices now which of course is great but as with everything there is also a downside. More people aren’t happy with what they have, where they are or how much they are earning and become restless and don’t live in the present moment fully as they are always looking to the next better thing.

The grass always seem greener because its grass that we don’t have and we seem to think that  that what we don’t have is more appealing. My suggestion is by all means have goals and work towards them consistently because they are important BUT don’t focus on them because you don’t have them now, be present in the moment, whatever it is you are doing, whether its washing up for instance, feel the warmth of the water, the smell of the washing up liquid, the squeakiness of a clean plate and so on.

I have goals and dreams and I am taking action on a daily basis to move towards those goals but I don’t focus on the lack of not having them now, I have found that by living in the present and seeing what is happening around me right now has given me an inner sense of peace and by clearing my mind regularly and stopping the chatter in my mind to be still by meditation it helps bring me back to the present. When we stop for just a minute and really look around us you see so many beautiful things and “miracles” which we miss when we are busy concentrating on moving forward and moving on to the next job on our long list of things to achieve. Happiness is a state of mind and isn’t found from material possessions, in fact i am finding that material things do actually weigh me down sometimes and make me unhappy. What a turnaround!!

My happiness comes from an inner peace and watching the little things happening around me and its refreshing that i don’t have to rely on buying something to make me happy which then disappoints because actually that happiness is short lived and is always replaced by something else. Now i just need to “be quiet” to find that inner peace and happiness and enjoy what i have, where i am while i travel on the journey of life towards my goals.

Use your senses when appropriate when you are doing anything, see, hear, feel, taste, touch even if its a task that you don’t enjoy and you will feel better about it, when was the last time you went for a walk and looked around you, listened to the sounds for example or doing the washing up and feeling the bubbles and water on your hands, the gentle smell of the washing up liquid and so on?

I find this Book very helpful when I wanted to read more about living in the present moment.

 

When Life gets tough

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Life rarely goes to plan and I think we all fight so hard to make our own plan work out when actually the Universe has it all in hand and gives us what we need to learn and grow and become better rather than what we want.
So at times it feels that its unfair, that life is working against you and its hard to accept that what is happening especially if its a health issue or a relationship problem or financial problems all of which nobody would actually consciously choose for themselves.

Take full responsibility for everything that happens in your life and try and see the positive and what you can learn from it and keep moving forward.

Each day try and be a better person than the day before, face those fears holding you back head on and just let yourself fly.
Easier said than done sometimes I know but what has helped me through some challenging times is knowing

1. It won’t last as nothing does
2. That you aren’t given anything you cant handle even if it doesn’t feel like it
3. That there is always a positive in every situation which may not be obvious at the time and you may need to dig deep but its there somewhere if you choose to find it.
4. That life is tough and its your attitude to it that makes the difference.

Favourite Motivational Quotes

Motivational Quotes

I Love and always benefit from motivational quotes so i thought i would share some of my favourites
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The future depends on what we do in the present. – Mahatma Gandhi

Fall seven times, stand up eight. Japanese proverb

“A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has” – Margaret Mead

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world” – Gandhi

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up” – Thomas Edison.

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing” – George Bernard Shaw

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily” — Zig Ziglar

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” – Wayne Gretzky

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” – Henry Ford

Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars. ~Les Brown

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. ~Henry Ford

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. ~Thomas Edison

Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it. ~Buddha